Depth of a Man
The Depth of a Man can be measured by the depth of his thoughts and the depth of his dreams. I know a little about this subject. I have spent years working with people helping them find and live their dreams. I would ask them what is on their “Bucket List.” I would ask the questions, “If money was not an issue, where would you go? What would you do? Who would be with you?” Regularly, I would receive a blank stare. You know the one… It is often described as the “deer in the headlights” look. I would then proceed to help them develop their top 10 list of things they want to do or see before they die or “kick the bucket”, a.k.a. their “Bucket List.”
Most people would have their top 3 places on the top of their minds. That was relatively easy. Places 4, 5, and 6 would come with a little resistance, people often had to search the recesses of their mind for these. Then things got interesting. I discovered there are 2 groups of people. The first group would search back to their childhood (often with some prompting). Search back to when they used to dream. Back to when they could do anything, be anything, could live a life without limitations or constraints of the daily milieu. Where did they want to go when they grew up? Did they want to marvel at the Taj Mahal, hike the Great Wall of China, scuba dive the Great Barrier Reef, surf the Bonsai Pipeline, visit the Louvre and just sit for days, weeks, or months taking in all the amazing wonders held within its’ walls? For this first group it was like pulling teeth, because they had never thought that deep… in their life! The second group, dreams 4, 5, and 6 would come a little easier. They had thought this deeply before, but not for a while. Not since before they reached that age of financial responsibility. That age where they realized they were now locked into a job and family responsibilities which they feel they can’t escape. Something very interesting would happen with this second group during dreams 4, 5, and 6. As they would reach into the recesses of their mind they would open the door to their closet of dreams and connect with those dreams. For this group the challenge was not trying to come up with 10 locations they wanted to see before they died. This second group had the more gargantuan task of, once revisiting their dreams, trying to fit the entire world of possible places to visit, cultures to experience, sunsets or sunrises to marvel over into just four slots. These are slots 7, 8, 9, and 10.
I encourage everyone I meet or come into contact with, to go into the recesses of their mind. Go into the closet of your dreams and connect with your dreams. Then write down these dreams. Write them out at length and in detail. You earn bonus points for specificity!! A dream that is not committed to pen and paper is a pipe dream and will go up in smoke, but when you put it down on paper the world is full of possibilities. Once you have your Bucket List, I invite you to check online or call a travel agent and see what it really costs to achieve your dreams. Start making plans. With the present world economy there are some great deals out there to be had. They are there for the asking. But the person who is still dreaming and not taking action towards their dreams is simply wishing their life away. Hoping for someday. As Oprah says, “Someday is not the 8th day of the week.” If not now, when? Life is what happens while you are waiting for your ship to come in.
Come join us! We decided to stop waiting for that ship to come in. We built our ship and sailed out of the harbor. The harbor of safety. We now sail the seas of our joys, the worlds experiences, and all of our dreams. We look forward to seeing you on these open seas.
Aloha, James Christopher